10 Wedding Planning Dos and Don’ts
Planning your wedding is overwhelming to say the least - especially for the guy. But it doesn’t have to be. Here are some do's and don’ts to keep in mind during the planning process. They might just help you avoid some unnecessary stress and concern. After all the last thing you want is to get so stressed out that you both decide to call off the wedding.
Budget. Hard: This is critical. The last thing you want is to overspend on a few items and have nothing left for key elements. Or even worse, be stuck with debt afterwards. Work out a budget beforehand and stick to it. Budgeting will also help you work out the non-negotiables and allow you to allocate money (and time!) to those before you go out and buy things you don't actually need.
DIY the shit out of it: Do-it-yourself projects like wedding décor etc. not only save money but also bring a unique element to your wedding. Anything you can make yourself will take less money from the budget. But do this wisely. Don’t just DIY for the sake of it. You have to enjoy the projects you take on, and they have to warrant the money, time and energy you spend on them.
Be true to your style: The most important part of a wedding is the celebration of your and your fianceé’s relationship. It is all about the two of you. Don’t try and copy what is trendy if it doesn’t reflect your personalities at all. If you don't like copper tones, don't do it. If you love Star Wars, get a Darth Vader suit. This is a celebration of the two of you.
Rehearse: Some things come naturally and don’t have to be rehearsed. However, if you are planning something unique i.e. lighting candles at a point in the ceremony, give it a practice run just to be safe. Talking through the proceedings for the event will also help you both understand each other's ideas for the day and help iron out any little kinks before the day actually comes around.
Have fun: A wedding is not just the actual event. It is everything leading up to it, so make sure you have fun during the planning process so you have more fond memories to look back on. Its a celebration. Don't let it become a bane.
And now for the don'ts. Please. Just. Don't. We've included this list because all too often people do these things and end up ruining the experience for themselves and their partners.
Leave anything to the last minute: Last minute planning creates unnecessary stress and could leave you disappointed when something you want is unavailable on the day. You also don’t have to plan everything in the shortest time possible. Make the most important bookings (i.e. venue, caterers, photographer, DJ etc.) first and spread the rest of the planning over a reasonable time frame.
Over – (stress; think; plan): Yes, it is one of the most important days of your lives, but try not to give yourself a nervous breakdown. Things do and will go wrong but it is how you handle it that makes the difference. Everything that does go wrong will be part of how you remember your day though, and it's those things that will give your day the character that you will chuckle at later on.
Try and do it all yourself: Delegate, delegate, delegate! You have groomsmen and bridesmaids for this exact reason people. Max that shit OUT!
Forget to return rentals: So many things are planned for the wedding, that you might miss some of the important after-wedding things, like returning rentals. Delegate this task to a trusty someone.
Confuse yourself with too many options:
Pinterest et al has opened up a whirlpool of creative wedding ideas, but be careful not to get sucked in. Take some time to research and then choose your favourites, and leave it at that afterwards. Don't go second guessing yourself once something is bought and paid for. If you continue researching after you’ve made decisions you run the risk of confusing yourself, doing too much or making your ideas clash with each other.
Do you like these tips? Let us know in the comments below. Now - Go get 'em tiger!