In the words of Rob Base and DJ E-Z Rock, “It takes two to make a thing go right.” This is particularly true when it comes to pulling off a wedding. Weddings are a lot of work and they require a lot of time and energy and involvement from the couple getting married. Wedding planning isn’t just for the ladies; it takes two – the bride and the groom – to make it right.
So how do you make sure your man gets involved in the wedding plan? Here are our three top tips to do just that.
1. Talk to him
The age-old saying “If you don’t ask, you don’t get” is very true in this scenario. If you don’t talk to your man you’ll never know if he is interested in being involved and what he is willing to do. Don’t assume that he wants nothing to do with the planning – ask him! This way you also get to express yourself to him and you can then talk openly about what both of you expect from the experience. Ask him what he would like to do, don’t just tell him what he must do. Find out what ideas he has and then try and merge your ideas. That way you’ll both feel like you’re part of the plan and the final product will be extra special.
2. Let go of control
It might seem scary at first, but it’s important that you let go control when your man shows an interest in getting involved. There is no point if you ask him to do something, try to micro-manage him, and then land up doing it yourself. Let go control and let him surprise you with what he’s capable of. Give him special projects to work on that make the most of his strengths. Support and encourage him. More than that, ask him for help with your own projects – he will feel needed and involved; you will feel attended to and less stressed.
3. Keep it interesting
Wedding planning doesn’t have to be “by the book”. Find a method that works for you and then run with it. If you need to start with your budget and then get creative, do that. If you’re the kind of couple that first wants to brainstorm ideas so you have all the information first, then do that. Just because one thing worked for friends of yours, doesn’t mean it will work for you. Make the planning process your own – go on treasure hunts for ideas, binge surf Pinterest for décor inspiration. What’s important is that you’re having fun and that you’re doing it together.
When you work together to plan your big day, it’ll be even more memorable because you get to see everything come together – just like the two of you will come together. Planning is a beautiful part of the process; make the most of it.